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If you enjoy adult movies (like us) then you’ve seen a lot of sex positions. Many adult movies now contain anal sex as it’s probably one of the most popular forms of ’sex on camera’ today. Most adult films will have at least one anal sex scene and the demand for pure anal sex movies, has risen by a huge amount over the years.

OK, so you’ve watched quite a few DVD’s and you’ve got the urge and are desperate to try anal sex…how do you go about experimenting with it with your female partner? If you dive right in, you’ll create too much tension and it will never work…that’s a fact. Why? Because adult movies are well organised and all preparation goes on behind the camera, before any intercourse even takes place.

Well before the director starts to film, female pornstars will lube up, using jelly to lubricate their anus, as well as even using toys to prepare for intercourse first. It’s never a case of of simply pulling her skirt down and sliding it in…do that and you’re in for one hell of a surprise (as well as a slap around the face).

Talk about it before and have respect

Be honest. Let your partner know your urge. Explain that it’s always something you’ve wanted to try and you’ll be very grateful if you could at least try it out. Never suddenly try to do it during sex. You can hurt your partner if you do this and totally lose her respect. So talk first.

Preparation to maintain comfort and enjoyment

The anal passage is delicate. If no form of lubricant is used, injury can be caused. It’s just like the females Virgina really. It needs to get wet and lubricate before you can both have fun. The ass is the same, but lacks natural lubrication. Buy some anal jelly before hand and explain that this is to ensure comfort and ease. You will also need:

- To make sure your finger nails are freshly cut (or you’ll cause her discomfort)

- Buy a vibrator or dildo. If it’s her first time with sex toys, a small vibrator (around 5″ in length) is ideal.

Relaxation is the key to enjoying anal sex

Many woman are put off from anal sex because men rush in too fast. The don’t let the female relax enough to enjoy it and they only think about themselves. Getting your female partner to relax is essential as this will cause her anus to loosen more and make anal sex so much more comfortable.

Right, it’s time to get to the anal sex guide, so lets begin:

Start as you would normally, before sex. Kiss, rub, caress and lick each other. Kiss her neck, suck her breasts and make her feel sexy and urge you to be inside of her. Perform oral sex on each other, taking turns or performing a 69 (or both). Once you’re in the mood to progress, enjoy a nice short session of hot sex and get her so horny that she’ll pull you in deeper if you try to pull out.

Once you’re at this stage, it’s time to use the jelly. Don’t make this a procedure, make it sexy. Ask her to bend over and kiss, lick and squeeze her ass. Get some jelly on your finger, but don’t use it just yet. Rub her clit and pleasure her some more, be careful not to make her cum just yet. It’s vital she doesn’t so the pleasure helps her to relax.

Lick her clit while she is bent over. If you don’t want to do this, carry on rubbing it instead (doing both would be great though). Now it’s time to apply the jelly.

Gently rub a bit of jelly (the size of a pea) onto the small hole of the anus. Now gently rub it around the outer part of the anus and once it’s massaged around, slowly and gently ease the tip of your finger inside. Pull it out and massage some more, before pushing the tip of your finger in again.  Use your other hand to rub her clit slowly and give her pleasure, this is vital for relaxation and to prevent anal tension.

If the jelly starts to dry out, use another small amount, but only when necessary. Eventually her anus should relax slightly and allow your finger to slide in deeper. Don’t force it in, allow the anus to accept it in gradually. Once you can ease your finger inside, up to knuckle depth, you’re ready.

Sex Toy Therapy

It’s time to trust in the sex toy. This will allow you to give your partner pleasure and make her relax, while you experiment with anal sex. Having already introduced the feeling of minor anal penetration to your partner, let her sit down with her legs nice and wide. Begin to pleasure her with the sex toy (using it to penetrate her pussy) and do it slowly to relax her and get her back into the mood. Give each other pleasure, by allowing her to blow you as you do this.

Again, be careful not to make her cum, but allow her to enjoy it and relax. Once you’ve both enjoyed this pleasure for a bit, get her to lay on her side. It’s best to have her fully laying down on her side, with her legs and knees pushed up toward her chest. This will open the pussy and ass more, allowing for you to experiment and have some fun. Your partner should now be in a position which looks like this:

Take the sex toy once again and begin pleasuring her pussy. Take the time to touch and caress her, helping her to feel relaxed. Once she is really enjoying it, let her take control of the sex toy and let her pleasure herself. While she is enjoying this, take the jelly once again and place a small pea size amount on her anal hole. Repeat what you did last time, gently inserting your finger tip a few times. Once her anus relaxes (the pleasure she is getting from the sex toy, will allow this much more) gently push your finger to knuckle depth, once again.

At this stage, it’s really down to how relaxed her anus is. She will still be pleasuring herself with the sex toy right now, so this will reduce tension and allow her to relax, opening up her anus. If you need to use a little bit more jelly, then do so, but only if you feel it’s drying out. Keep using your finger until you feel her anus loosen enough. Once your finger is easily penetrating, it’s time to try what you’ve been waiting for.

At this point, her anus has relaxed more and your finger should easily be sliding in and out with aid of the jelly. She still should be pleasuring herself, so make sure she keeps doing so, as this is really important. Now it’s time to kneel to her level and while she continues to pleasure herself with the sex toy, gently place your hand on her top ass cheek and pull it up, so her anus is exposed. Gently and very slowly, push the tip of your penis against her anus hole. Allow the jelly to enable yourself to slide in. If you need more jelly, then add a pea size amount and try again.

From here on, it’s all down to how relaxed she is and how patient you are. Don’t ram it in or you’ll ruin your chances. Simply be gentle and wait until she really begins to feel enjoyment from pleasuring herself, before attempting to push a little harder for the tip of your penis to enter.

Once it has, gently ease the tip of your penis, in and out of her anus. Gradually, you’ll be able to comfortably push a little deeper and a little deeper, but you must remember to have patience and to allow her anus to invite you in. If you thrust hard then forget it, it’s all about patience.

You can also use this sex toy method with your partner on all fours, bent over as well. Have her on a chair or couch, so her head is facing the back of the chair/couch. This will allow you to insert the tip of your penis, more easily. It is recommended to try it with her laying on her side first though (pic above), as this opens the anus more, but if you think this position my help better, try it out.

Keep trying this technique and with a little patience, you’ll be enjoying some hot anal sex with your partner. Some women will open up to full anal penetration right away, some may need a little more time. Just remember to be patient, use the jelly and allow her anus to let you know when to push a little deeper.

Good luck and we hope you’ve found our article helpful. We hope you and your partner have a great night ;o)

Tags: Anal Sex, Getting her to have Anal Sex, Introducing Anal Sex to your Female Partner

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